Many Thanks to All.
My friend sent me a Dot.Com to look at, it interested me!
It's the www.kickbully below here.
Is this what happens to you, well me, when one minute your alert and then.....BANG !
Down & Out!
You've lost your life and people never see you the way you were before.
They can only see you in a hospital bed with tubes coming out of here, there and everywhere!
Even now it's a Big Stigma from others, even my family.
I shall not allow this to hurt me anymore, I'm fed up crying!
When this money issue appeared, I've been very angry, I told my dad that I recieved a message to say that Steve Jones will be in touch with me after the 4th of November! Hmmm! I thought!
I called my dad about the news and that it may possibly be the money!
He told me that he felt that he did the right thing and gave money to us all so that there was no arguements.
He also gave Joyce's family money and then he also gave money to Christine and Alan.
This is when I had a fracas with myself after this information during the call.
I had a brawl with myself, I lost my own argument?
Do people become greedy.....or bullies !
I had a noisy quarrel with myself at that moment......HOW?.......WHY?........How can this happen within a family, what is the good quality reason for this to happen to me?
If it's not one thing, it's another?
Even when sending the letter, there was no mention of how much money!
Would I have noticed about the money thing unless I wasn't as Nosey?
How many days has this been on the go for?
The present drama issue started on Sunday15th September and it's now the 2nd of November 2013, I still can't think that the best excuse for me not to have the money is that I'm not sensible enough to have it???
My main concern now........
If peole are learning to be a Rehabilitation Supporter/Carer; lets hope that the way I have been treated in the last year should be looked at and not treat others the way I have been,
What happened to Our Choices !
Workplace Bully Behaviors:
Mental patients in charge
Hidden bullying traits
- Obsessed with image
- Distorts truth and reality
- Plays the victim
- Pretends to care
2. Obsessed with image
When you work for an image-obsessed bully, he worries about how your actions might impact his image in the company. This may lead him to make the absurd charge that your behavior, though well within the norms of your workplace culture, somehow tarnished his reputation. Being obsessed with image thus provides a bully with another opportunity to criticize you in order to control you.
3. Distorts truth and reality
Suppresses the truth
Presents hearsay as fact
Distorts facts and their meaning
Avoids the truth about his behavior
Alternatively, he justifies his bullying behavior as needed to achieve positive goals, or mischaracterizes his aggressive behavior traits as valid leadership qualities.
Never honest and constructive
Attacks you when you confront him
Shifts the focus to others
5. Plays the victim
Exaggerates the impact of your actions on him
Focuses on past and future victimization
Uses his victimization to avoid changing his behavior
He is good, others are bad
He uses highly aggressive phrases to intimidate you with his superior motives, such as:
He may also attempt to control the meeting agenda, even to the point of wasting everyone’s time on items of exclusive interest to him. In his vanity, he believes his obviously superior ideas and opinions justify his domination of every meeting he attends.
- William Hazlitt
For example, he preaches mutual trust, but betrays your trust in him. He preaches teamwork at the same time he undermines you. He conceals his activities, but attacks you for not publicizing yours. He glosses over his mistakes as insignificant and not worth discussing, but exaggerates your mistakes, bringing them up again and again. He is a loose cannon, but complains when you show independence and initiative.
If you work with a hypocritical bully long enough, you will discover that there are no limits to the ways in which he can reveal the contradiction between what he says and what he does.
Public vs. private words
Attacks your character
Uses distortions and lies as he spreads rumors about you
Spreads malicious rumors about you
Uses the silent treatment
Excludes you from social interaction within the company
Cuts you out of the loop
12. Pretends to care
Undermining you in front of others
Belittling you in a “friendly” manner
Overly harsh criticism
It only seems hopeless
But even if you’re certain that the patients will always be in charge of the mental hospital that you tactfully refer to as “work,” don’t give up hope (unless, of course, the bully is the owner, or the owner’s son). There is always the possibility that your honesty, integrity and common sense approach to your job will one day be recognized by someone powerful who isn’t under the spell of a charismatic bully. (But are you sure it’s worth the wait?)